What are you afraid of? What is stopping you from getting into the relationship you want? Or hindering you from deepening your current connection? Why are you afraid to leave your job and starting a new career? Why do we fear things that are not life threatening?
Fear is your friend. Make friends with Fear. Friends want you to be safe and to feel cared for. Your fear is your access to bringing in safety and care for oneself. Fear (without the influence of the mind) is simply a self-love emotion. It wants to move you into action:
Fight-Flight, Freeze-Feel, Flow-Freedom. Here is my theory:
When love arrives, don’t fear. Don’t fear that the love may be rejected or lost. Let love guide you. Open yourself to love and be clear that this love is yours. Love has no demands on the other. The ultimate and empowered form of love is compassion. If you have pure empathic compassion for yourself and others, love then needs not to be limited.
I have experienced this time and time again. Someone is feeling love for me, so they close themselves down in fear of loss or the pain they may experience. By doing this… they feel pain. So they think – “See, it’s painful to love, so I will close down now.” I invite you to please see this differently. You are experiencing pain because you are closing, not because you are loving.