What are you afraid of? What is stopping you from getting into the relationship you want? Or hindering you from deepening your current connection? Why are you afraid to leave your job and starting a new career? Why do we fear things that are not life threatening?
Fear is your friend. Make friends with Fear. Friends want you to be safe and to feel cared for. Your fear is your access to bringing in safety and care for oneself. Fear (without the influence of the mind) is simply a self-love emotion. It wants to move you into action:
Fight-Flight, Freeze-Feel, Flow-Freedom. Here is my theory: